寻找帮助 & 资源

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资源-我在哪里可以找到帮助?

校园, community and national resources to assist with intimate partner violence, 不健康的关系, 性侵犯, 和被人跟踪.     

校园资源:

  • CARE中心 (校园 Assault Response and Education) 
    • 星期一至五上午九时至下午四时 
    • Confidential, compassionate 支持 and resources by a 工作人员 member
    • Call 925-631-4193 or email Megan Gallagher at mag7@ngskmc-eis.net 安排一个虚拟约会.
  • SMC 24/7 CARE Line (校园 Assault Response and Education) Line
    • 匿名支持和信息
    • 24 hours a day/7 days per week during the academic year (Fall coverage dates: 8/29/22 - 12/10/22)
    • 打电话或发短信(925)878-9207 
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  • 咨询 and Psychological 服务 (CAPS)
    • (925) 631-4364, Augustine Hall, Ground Floor
  • 健康中心
    • (925) 631-4252, Augustine Hall, Ground Floor
  • 宣教事工中心
    • (925) 631-4366, Korth 1 (right of Chapel)
  • 校园安全
    • (925) 631-4282，圣母升天堂西
  • 妇女与性别平等中心
    • (925) 631 - 4192, Augustine Hall, Ground Floor

社区资源:

  • Community Violence Solutions (Contra Costa County): 
    • 24 hour crisis hotline - 1-800-670-7273
    • 倡导和医院陪伴 
  • 反暴力社区联盟:
    • 24小时危机热线:(415)333-HELP
    • 网站:  www.前.org
    • 免费咨询, 法律宣传, 还有紧急援助(酒店), 食物, and transportation vouchers) for LGBTQ survivors of domestic violence, 不喜欢暴力, 还有性侵犯
  • 家庭司法中心:
  • Rainbow Community Center of Contra Costa County
  • 站! For 家庭 Free of Violence (Concord):
    • 1- 888-215-5555 
    • 24-hour crisis counseling and emergency resources related to dating/domestic violence
    • http://www.standffov.org/

国家资源:

你是否是RA, 室友, 朋友, 同学, 教师, 工作人员, or just someone who is concerned for someone you think may be dealing with trauma caused by 性侵犯/misconduct/harassment, 不健康的关系或跟踪, here are some tips on how to handle a conversation about it.

我如何帮助别人?

主要有5件事要做: 听. 相信. 支持. 参考和连接. 照顾好自己. 

If someone approaches you and wants to share their story of a traumatic event or experience, 相信他们选择你是有原因的. Start by telling them that you are sorry that someone hurt them and ask how you can help. You can inform them that Saint Mary's College has resources on campus available to 支持 them and help them decide what to do next. If you are a mandated reporter, inform them that you are. Offer to connect them to a confidential resource (Director of the CARE Center - Megan Gallagher, 咨询 & Psychological 服务, or a priest in a confessional). 如果他们选择分享，那么...

  • 听- - - - - - 让他们引导谈话. 认真听他们在说什么. Do not interrupt unless you truly have to ask a clarifying question that will help you to 支持 them. Do not worry if you feel like you do not know exactly what to say. Be authentic and tell them you just want to help and do not know how. It is more important that you spend the time to truly hear what they are saying so that they feel heard. Just sharing the information with you may be all they need in that moment. 
  • 相信 - Tell them that you believe them; it is essential to promote their healing process in a positive way. Do not provide your opinions or tell them what they should or should not have done. 听 and believe what they are telling you, without judgement. 要有同理心，但不要同情. 
  • 支持, Allow this person the time and space they need to process what they are sharing with you and to make decisions based on what is best for them in the moment. Know that their decisions may change in the moment and/or over time. Do not tell them what you would do in the situation. Always be aware that this is about them and this moment. 通过这样做, you are empowering them to make choices and to gain some control back from something that was out of their control. It can be helpful to present options to them, 如果你觉得舒服的话, 支持他们伸出援手.
  • 参考和连接 - Saint Mary's College has many resources for students; it is difficult to know them all and/or understand what they can do. 如果你正在读这篇文章, there is a "resources" tab on this web page that can help point you in the right direction. 如果不确定, you can always call or text the CARE Line anonymously (925) 878-9207 or contact Megan Gallagher for a confidential meeting. Students are often able to have a 支持 person accompany them to meetings.
  • 照顾好自己 - If someone shares their traumatic experience with you, you may also experience many of your own emotions. Be aware of your own experiences of trauma. It is important to know and express your own boundaries and limits in 支持ing this person. Remember that you need to care for yourself first before you can be at your best in 支持ing a 朋友. It is OK to be aware and express that you may not be able to and always refer to someone who can.

SUGGESTIONS ON WHAT TO SAY IN THE MOMENT:

  • "我一直在你身边 when you are ready to talk about it. 如果你不是，也没关系. 我一直在你身边."
  • "I am here to 支持 you - no matter what you choose."
  • "I am concerned for you; please tell me how I can help you get through this."
  • "You seem to be having a difficult time with this. If you want to talk about it, I'm happy to just listen." 

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